Disney is Ruining My Kid.


Disney has been ruining my kid…. a job I can do quite well on my own, thank you.

 I know, it sounds drastic.  Don’t worry, I am not going to launch into a ridiculous diatribe about how Frozen has a hidden gay agenda (huge eye roll) or is turning my girls in to glittery, sparkly princesses who need a prince to save them, (we are over that stage, thank god) or that Miley Cyrus grew up and dared to climb out of her Hannah Montana box.

In the interest of being a pretty laid back mom,  who fights against my extremely conservative upbringing, I have tried to adopt a more moderate view of the world and it’s evils.  With my girls, I am trying a more balanced approach, believing that they should not be sheltered constantly from American culture, taught to fear and judge and overreact to everything they see.  My general philosophy has been to allow them to take part in age-appropriate music, movies and t.v.

That said, I may have gone too far…

Its been a brutal winter and  I confess, my kids watched too much T.V.  School was cancelled. ALL THE TIME.  There was only so much hot chocolate and board games I could muster before I would hand them the remote and rock quietly in a dark corner of my kitchen with a bottle of wine.

Now, I did check in with them, shouting “whatcha watching?”  and they would yell, “A.N.T. Farm!” or “Kickin’ It!” or “Good Luck Charlie!”  I investigated, and these shows are all listed as appropriate for 8+.  Fine.  Every once in a while, they would call me in to watch some joke they thought was  “Soooo hilarious, mom!” and I would try not to think about how they should be watching something on the History channel instead.  Kids deserve some mindless, silly comedy with no educational purpose, just like I deserve to watch Sister Wives and Grey’s Anatomy.  No big.


A few months ago, my husband and I started noticing some differences in one of our daughter’s behavior.  She wasn’t acting like herself, she seemed to be putting on a show.   She would fling her hair about and act like a sassy teenager and use lingo  that sounded inauthentic and contrived coming from her.  In these moods she was extra silly, always looking for a laugh.

When this would happen, I tried to talk to her about it.  I pointed out that it did not feel like her “real” personality, and that people can sense when someone is not being authentic.  We talked about crossing the line between silly and obnoxious.   I stepped up my emphasis on important qualities like kindness, generosity, creativity.   I asked her if she was acting like people on tv, and after much pressure, she would admit that she was getting a her sayings and jokes from the Disney channel.

At this point, no real alarm bells were going off.  She was experimenting, and we were talking about it.  It opened lines of communication for me.  A little hair tossing and Disney “lingo” was not going to ruin her.

But then, this dear daughter got into some trouble with friends at school.  I met with her teachers and spoke to the parents of the other girls involved, and was shocked to hear of some of the social things going on with my child at school.   She is a sensitive, loving, girl who is usually fiercely  loyal and empathetic… the reports of her behavior did not match what I knew of my girl. She was saying hurtful and judgemental things about other girls’, throwing around conceited declarations,  among other shocking things.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am all for personal responsibility and I am in no way interested in making lame excuses for my child.  We dealt with the situation and helped her learn painful but necessary lessons about jealousy, friendship, self-control, and hurtful words.

While she was at school during this week, I spent a good amount of time in quiet reflection.  The week’s events had been extremely trying as a parent, I found myself in new territory.  Acting on instinct, I spent a day watching some of her favorite  Disney shows, from start to finish…looking for answers.


Parents.  Are you watching this garbage?

I certainly had not been.  Beyond the quick minute or two, I had never sat and watched an episode of A.N.T Farm with the girls.  Because it is Disney.  How the hell do you go from Doc McStuffins, a show that SAVED ME countless tears at the pediatrician’s office, to this absolute trash?    I so very wrongly figured that a company like Disney would not be promoting cruelty, bullying and sexism in their shows for young, impressionable children.  I was completely mortified as I watched.

These shows are laced with terrible social behavior.   Like the scene in one, where a “nerdy” boy walks up to a pretty “popular” girl and asks her out… she threw her bowling ball and ran away screaming.  *Cue audience laughter*

There were so many examples of rude, mean responses to difficult social situations for kids, followed by the character shrugging it off, recorded laughter, and the characters moving on without showing any realistic emotions.  No anger, no hurt feelings.  Comedy.

I was disgusted.  How in the world will we teach our children to be kind and put a stop to cruel behavior in schools when THE DISNEY CHANNEL is showing these bullying behaviors followed by laughter and no emotional response???    It was clear where my daughter had gotten the impression that these kinds of conceited one liners and arrogant vanity was playful and a harmless way to get a laugh.

Just when I thought I had seen the worst, there was a scene that made blood shoot from my eyeballs.  A pretentious girl, conspiring to create a room-sized walk in closet for all her makeup! and clothes! and shoes!  was asked by two boys to help them with a math problem.   She does.

 To which they exclaim, “Thank you, you are a genius!”

The girl is offended.

 The boys hurriedly fix their ghastly mistake with,   “Oh! I mean you are SO beautiful!”

 ….and she prances away, satisfied.

Excuse me while I heave.

Shame on me for exposing my daughter to this kind of garbage.


What  talented person working over there in the Disney CO.  believes this is an appropriate message for 8 + girls in 2014?


 They are out to make conceit and rejection funny. They are sending intentional messages to girls about how they should value their looks and their walk-in closets over their brains! Now, I realize that not all children are going to be as susceptible as my daughter was to copying the abhorrent behavior on these shows.  But I have more than one daughter.  And who knows how they have been internalizing this bullshit.  It’s outrageous.

After picking up the kids from school, my girls and I sat and re-watched these shows.  I wanted to gouge my eyes out.  As we watched, I paused it every single time someone said something cruel, every time the fake audience laughed inappropriately at what in real life would be someone’s serious emotional pain.  We talked about what would actually happen if you acted like that with your friends, and how you can’t repair things by declaring “Just KIDDING!”  I showed them the “genius” scene and we had a long talk about the awful and unacceptable message it sends to girls about dumbing down, caring only about appearance, objectification… my daughters got more than they bargained for that afternoon.

As a parent, when the kids are watching t.v., it’s mostly because I need a moment.  To make dinner.  To help someone else with homework.  To gather my sanity.  These few examples permanently damaged my trust in the Disney Channel and the trash they are producing for our kids.

It’s hard enough to raise kids who will have the moral fortitude to stand up for themselves and for each other.  It’s hard enough to teach my little girls to be proud and brave and own their bodies and their brains without apology.  To recognize and condemn cruelty and sexism. It’s hard enough to get a moment to catch my breath and feel like my kids are safe and entertained for 30 minutes under the DISNEY umbrella without unwittingly downloading vain, cruel, and damaging sexist garbage into their impressionable brains.

Shame on my naiveté and trust in the Disney name.

Believe me… lesson learned.

724 thoughts on “Disney is Ruining My Kid.

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    • wow you dont own a tv, computer or gaming console??? your kids must be geniuses! curious though what do you do with them? i have one device free afternoon and thats a task in itself…

    • I don’t think that’s a vey good idea. I mean, one day your kids might grow up and resent the fact that they grew up that way and when they finally DO watch some tv or play video games-maybe with their friends or something- they might go a bit too far and watch something they shouldn’t. I would know- the same thing happened to me. I was very sheltered as a kid and every time I spent the night at a friends house, we would watch movies I wasn’t allowed to watch and horrific tv shows. I found it exciting because I hadn’t been exposed to things like that. I understand being attentive to what they’re watching or playing, but maybe you shouldn’t take away things like that all together.

  5. Oh for goodness sakes! You are the parent. Kill your cable. There. Problem solved!

    There is a buttload of non-commercial TV YOU can pick. It’s called Netfllix! I can’t recommend it enough. You kids will gave better attention spans and you get better control of what they watch.

    Don’t tell me you can’t do it. It is a lame excuse. If you think a cable channel is ruining your kids, you have the power to put a stop to it. Anything else is a whiny cry-baby excuse.

    Worried you won’t have enough “distractions”? Use that buttload of cable money and buy an iPad. Load up some educational games (Minecraft can be very educational, but there are others ;) ). Viola!

  6. Also, the less TV kids watch the more they learn to play on their own. Reseach it! It is true. Seen it with my friends TV-free kids and mine when we take a week or two off from electronics. It does wonders for their attention spans.

  7. I agree that this is what is really harming kids. Its a shame people will say stuff like, “Look what shes wearing!” or “OMG a character is gay” etc. as if thats what they should be concerned about. When its really the things described in this article that they should be concerned with and not their fake morality concerning themselves with antiquated things like a girl in a mini skirt or something else trite

  8. We should not have to worry about Disney but after I did so much research on them they are sickening. Into the Woods I watched with my daycare provider friend and when Jonny Depp was playing his part it was so sickening I was going to get sick. So many sexual messages.Go back to old cartoons and you will see them involved with Illuminati. I hate Disney. OH MONSANTO TOO.

  9. My daughter is seven. Luckily she is still into animated T.V shows like Dora and Friends, Wild Kratts and Horsepand which she watches on her tablet. But I do worry what shows will be appropriate for her as she gets older. It’s important that we teach our daughters that you do not dumb yourself down in order to impress a guy or in fear of looking uncool. Stupidity and ignorance is uncool. But it starts with us. As parents we have to do a better job in steering our kids in the right direction.

  10. My daughter is seven. Luckily she is still into animated shows like Dora and Friends, Wild Kratts and Horseland, which she watched on Netflix. I do worry as she gets older, what programs are out there that are appropriate and sends the right message to young girls at a time when they are truly impressionable. I see Disney is not the answer. But we as parents have to steer our kids in the right direction and teach our daughters, especially that ignorance and stupidity is not cool. You do not dumb yourself down to impress anyone. Girls need to learn from very young to be comfortable in their own skin.

  11. As a teenage girl who has dealt with some awful bullying and self-image problems, even I can say you’re looking into this too much. I’ve only seen a few episodes of A.N.T. Farm, but I remember most of the characters. I assumed the girl you mention is Lexi. (Leslie, Lessly, I don’t know) If your kid can’t see the difference in how people act in shows and reality, maybe she shouldn’t be watching that. In my opinion, it’s bad parenting on your part if Disney is supposed to be the one teaching your kid how to behave. Shows like A.N.T. Farm are meant for an older audience, regardless of what it’s rated, as are a lot of Disney shows. I don’t know if you know, but Disney has also made an R rated movie (credit was given in the credits as they didn’t want it to hurt their image too much). Simply because something is on a kid’s channel doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for EVERY age group.

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  13. I couldn’t agree more! Thank you for validating my exact emotions to the Disney Channel. My daughter is going on 7 so imagine my pain! She has transformed before my eyes. Going to school has become a fashion show and she has been using popular lingo with a sassy flair. Not good! Today we ban Disney!

  14. wow bravo to you ! I myself am an ex Liberal now Libertarian who agrees with you (sort of) about some people taking it too far w/ the hidden agendas. But I myself sat & watched 2 shows 1 day w/ my boys & was utterly horrified. If there WASN’T some of sort of agenda to inciting rebellion & disgusting social behavior in easily engineered & steered little children, then what’s the point of these shows??? Great article, great perspective, I’m sure Disney is none too happy about it but it’s always great to ruffle the great Corporate feathers!

  15. Disney. Must. DIE. I see where youare coming from very well. But the fact that it is poor quality and doesn’t make sense is even worse. They are making a profit off of a show that is unrealistic and stupid, and even worse people still call acting an art form after the bad acting we see on TV now (Disney isn’t the only offender) Thanks to whoever ruined TV because now art is a dead word.

  16. y’all stupid…just download the Brady Bunch, Full House or the classic Hannah Barbera cartoons and countless other programs history has provided via the internet for your kids to watch. It doesn’t have to be: shitty modern tv vs no tech at all

  17. Just took my kids to see Inside Out over the weekend – loved it! For heaven’s sake don’t send them to public school!!! We have watched all the Disney classics, new releases, etc. and love them all. The agenda is to entertain the adults in the audience too with humor that goes over the kids head – I enjoy the movies more than my kids do sometimes. I grew up with Disney and so will my kids – planning a trip to Disney World at some point. My kids enjoy Disney as part of a well rounded lifestyle. Not too much of any one thing – not knowing about Disney, latest video games, etc. is a social handicap!

  18. We do not have cable and use Netflix mainly for our mindless TV. My kids caught on to all of the Disney shows mentioned and then some. Most are horrible, and we have noticed an increase in the rude comments and arguing between our two kids ages 6 and 10. I agree that many children do not realize that in real life these actions or comments are mean and will not bode well for them. We are looking for other current shows that do not have the snippy, obnoxious, mean comments…

    • the problem with this is most shows that are for kids that age are like that if you don’t wasn’t shows like that then you might as well just keep them with barney keep them baby’s forever do you still breastfeed also? god you people are the reason most hate Christians

    • My girls are 6 and 10 and argue like crazy. We do not have cable and my children do not watch much tv otherwise. It is the age difference making them argue, not a television show. My 6 year olds favorite movie is The Descendants, a Disney movie! It is about the villains children, who in the end choose good over evil. Teach your kids the difference between good and evil, take them to church and enlighten them with the word and teachings of Jesus and you won’t have to worry if a tv show if ruining your child!

  19. I WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with every word of this post. I have been talking to my kids about this a lot lately because they end up watching this garbage when they go to their grandparents’ house. And I really do see a difference in their behavior after they’ve marinated in Disney TV for a day or two. It’s disgusting, no matter what company is producing it. But, Disney has truly tarnished their own name with this content. It’s just plain awful and irresponsible.

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  21. Listen, listen I’m a ten year old and I watch this “bullshit” and I know that I shouldn’t do it. You wanna know what I think about this story, that YOU are an over protective parent I watch (and love) disney channel and would NEVER stop watching it!

    • Woah, I’m 16, and I don’t even curse like that. Society is falling apart, causing children to curse at 10, tv shows and cartoons becoming inappropriate and disrespectful, shootings, violence, Family Guy, The Simpsons!

      I have a feeling the world is ending by people killing other people, who’s to blame:

      Disney, Fox, Nickelodeon, Donald Trump, Immigration, Drugs, life in general. It’s over. God, give these people strength and prevent anymore violence and tragedies like this.

      Cursing at 10, what’s wrong with you?

  22. I don’t think Disney has an agenda to turn kids into monsters. They just make more of what kids like… and kids like to laugh at others. With that said, you can reduce the number of time your kids spend watching Disney shows and teach them the things to watch for. Or, you can simply help them find other non-Disney shows that are fun and reinforce positive behaviors. They exist but you have to do your research to find them.

    • What a sensible comment!!! I do spend hours searching for something that would make my little one laugh, and at the same time not send a message that I would not agree with.
      It is easy nowadays with so much technology around to just “give them the remote” “give them the tablet” “give them the phone” and leave it to “good fortune”.
      Raising children is a mammoth task and asking a parent to spend a few hours doing “their homework” is perhaps to stretch it, but it is worth.

  23. I thank you for taking your time into writing this article. My wife and I have 3 beautiful daughters and my oldest has picked up that very painful and embarrassing humor. For years I have witnessed these shows go to far but just today my little one 5 years old was watching Disney jr and this show was on called Friends of Hart Lake City. Keep in mind I said Disney jr, the show was about a group of girls who are friends and one of them had a CRUSH on another little boy. All three of my kids were sucked in by this inappropriate tv show when Doc Mcstuffins was supposed to be on I guess they have 5 to 10 min cut off shows in between the actual show. I am now removing Disney and Disney jr but we cannot ignore the fact that this is still being watched by other children. I’ve read some comments other people have written and some comments are so negative and selfish that makes me wonder why are you even on this page. It makes me angry that there is good parents out there that are concerned about their kids and for the kids of others and ignorant moms are attacking these parents. Smh THIS IS WHAT WE DON’T WANT FOR OUR KIDS TO GROW UP JUST LIKE YOU.

  24. My parents aren’t concerned that Disney is really bad I believe that the only channel that’s still good is Cartoon Network

  25. Absolutely agree!!! I’m in shock with the lack of class the shows are portraying and encouraging young girls to act so mature and fake!

  26. I have never had this problem, my son is too young to like tween shows but he does watch Mickey Mouse. Even that show is evil, they all are, on all stations. It is teaching us to dumb ourselves down & we are being subjected to brainwashing techniques. There is nothing you can do & they know that. Because all is moms need a little break or to make dinner or to finish up laundry or whatever it may be. Media, even music such as single ladies by Beyoncé is loved by kids because the beat is catchy but young girls are supposed to be the target so the put her in the video half naked dancing inappropriately to sexualize your children. This would is scary. Start YouTubing illuminati in kids shows to just illuminati yourself. Everything we have even known has always been brainwashing.

  27. What you described has been going on, on tv, ever since television began, so it’s far from being a Disney only problem. Remember Steve Urkel from Family Matters? Kimmy from Full House? Countless others….movies as well. All these characters where constantly put down and made fun of. So while what you’re saying is very true and I really do like the idea that you had, I tend to think Disney has a different set of problems. The kids are made to over act WAY too much. They speak like adults instead of like just kids. Watching disney shows are just strange in general. There is something off about them that no one can really describe with words. Strange and concerning are the best words for me to use. I’m so glad my daughter is grown, 18 years old, and I don’t have to worry about this anymore. These shows use to drive me up a wall. Beyond annoying.

  28. Excellent article. Also, has anyone noticed a lack of any positive parental figure? In these shows parents and teachers are bumbling, incompetent and ridiculed figures.

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